My husband and I have been married for 5 years and he has three adult children that live all across the US. When we first got married we all made a big effort to get together 2 or 3 times a year, usually at holidays. As the children have moved on, our "family" time together is almost non-existent. I've seen my two SDs once in the last 18 months. The trouble is that my husband doesn't encourage them to spend time with us, but if he gets a hint that they might have a couple of days free he drops what he's doing to go see them. Often I can't go along because of work and other issues.