After a whole year of court cases.. which proved the ex was chronic excessive alcohol dependant, the endless messages, calls, emails we actually got 50/50 shared care. Dont get me wrong it was hard as i was working full.time whilst doing upto 80 miles a day taking the kids to school and picking them up. For the last 5 years ive treated my husbands children like my own, included them in everything made.my home their home only for it all to get thrown in my face in November last year when my step son accused my husband (his dad) of abusing my son.