I now that sounds silly, he either is or he isn't, but it's not 100% clear, and it's not all the time. A couple of things have brought this to light, first; DH has always had 50/50 custody, but in the beginning we had SS11 every weekend, so we were always out and about doing things, very rarely were we on a strict time schedule like you would be if you had to get to work or school. About 6 months ago we changed to 50/50 schedule to a 5/2/2/5 which we all like much better, but it has brought up some issues. I also just spent 2 weeks with DH and SS on vacation.

I knew this day would come, DH has been divorced previously and has two children from that marriage, within a year after his divorce from BM1 he had full custody of his two sons and she was not involved at all, she suffers from severe mental illness which presented in adulthood. With that being said he never had to "share" his children with another father figure. BM2 (our current HCBM) had 3 children from previous relationships when they got together, and then together they had one, SS11. So he has been a step-dad, but he has never had to deal with another man in his children's lives.

DH received a call on Friday from a local merchant stating that a check with his name on it had been returned because the account had been closed. Apparently BM wrote a check for alcohol from a joint account they had when they were married!! BM has "no recollection" of writing such check......ugh!

Who does this stuff????

I am usually a pretty upbeat, positive person but lately I am just in a funk.......

I'm so tired of the snow and grey gloomy skies, it's Spring, where are the flowers and sunshine? It doesn't help that my office has no windows, it's like a cement dungeon. On top of that, I work in a school, tensions are high because of the fear of violence, and it is state testing week, so days are dragging. Everyone is being petty, and just looking for arguments.