Starting this today to have a place to reach out. I'm a military member with 2 stepkids 11 SS and 13 SD with a 7 BD and 18month BS. One of my biggest frustrations is the BD never pays child support but is somehow super dad to his kids. He rarely works and lives with either friends or the occasional family member when they can stand him. Be is just a leech. Should I mot feel frustrated about being the sole supporter to someone else's kids, even though I love them?