My husband and I have been together for two years. The BM is bipolar and addicted to drugs. When she was married to my husband she let my SS then 2 1/2 do whatever he wanted. he has lived with us for 2 years and he is ruining us. He didn't have rules and i insist on them. he curses me throws things and throws up his food at least once a night because i make him eat it.