any suggestions on how to deal with a brat of a 17 y/o step daughter? she has flat out told me that I'm not family because I'm the step but yet she enjoys all the luxuries I provide for the household. My wife and I have only been together 7 years, we have an 8mo old son. i am counting down the days till this brat graduates high school and goes off to college so we can have a normal family finally.