Back in June, I made plans for my cousin and her girlfriend to visit next weekend and spend the night. I am very close to this cousin, more like a sister, but we don't get to see each other too much. This visit was actually DH's idea, which was very sweet of him to make the offer to them.

I have a calendar on the fridge that has all our personal and professional commitments on it. It's all colour-coded (yes, I'm a little anal..lol) so at a glance I can tell who has what on what day. SD16 looks at the calendar all the time when she's here. She even commented on how busy August was for us.

When DH was taking her home last weekend (currently we only have her on the first weekend of each month; her choice) she told DH that she MIGHT want to start coming for EOW visits again...starting next weekend. When he told me that I reminded him that we had overnight company that weekend and her room would be occupied. He snapped and told me that 'NOONE dictates when he sees his daughter. She is welcome anytime and she knows it.' I was furious! I'm usually someone who can take a deep breath and calm myself, but I lost it! I told him those plans have been made for months and since we don't even know if she's will grace us with her presence I will NOT be dictated into changing plans with MY family either!'

He said she can be here when they are here. No way. This was an 'adult evening' with drinking involved and he knows I will not drink at all when she's here. Besides, who wants to have to censor themselves with a kid in the room? We don't have a basement for her to hang out in and she will not spend a second in her room if there is an audience for her. DH thinking she's mature enough to sit with the adults for the evening. This is the same child that was trying to play peek-a-boo with her dad when she didn't have his complete attention this weekend. Sure DH. Plenty mature enough. Took everything I had in me not to tell him the reason she likely is so interested in spending more time with us is because she saw we had plans that weekend. It's not the first time she's done this. She pulled this shit on father's day weekend too when she was 'too busy' to see her dad but her day suddenly freed up when she found out we had plans with my family.

I know if my cousin knew she would be here they will cancel and I don't blame them. The last time sd16 and her were in the same room sd went on and on about how she thinks being gay (which my cousin is) is 'weird', yet sd told us she was bisexual 4 months ago. (all for attention of course) My cousin took me aside, appreciates that she is my sd, but does not want to spend any more time with her than absolutely necessary. I don't blame her for one second.

I spent the evening in my bedroom. Finally DH came in and apologized. He said that if she wants to start coming every other weekend he will tell her it will have to start in September or she can come the following weekend. Still thinks she would have fun if she were here with our company. Sure DH! But I sure won't!