I've seen a quote about skids being placed in adult spousal roles with their parents. Meaning a child is treated more like a spouse and authoritative figure than a child.

I have to wonder what will the parent do when these children grow up and (after attempting to sabotage all their parent's relationships) go off and find someone else to marry?

How are these children's new spouses treated? How do these children raise their own children? I wonder if there is ever any poetic justice as in these children have children that try to sabotage their marriage too?

So many articles on divorce state ways parents should co-parent after a divorce. But what if both parents are still hostile towards each other 6 years later? DH has a hard time being civil to BM of SS7 still. Where do you go and how do you get a bio parent, or both and skid into counseling??? ARGH!!!

Yes this opens the door for a whole mess of extra problems.

Plus both parents do not discipline, etc.

I looked it up and here is what the DHMH/CPS states about one form of abuse:

So DH has grown SD from his marriage and biological 7 yr old son. After divorce had a gf and they have a 4 yr old. The 4 yr old lives with the mom and her husband and her son who is the same age as DHs son.

Now DH is all about his son. His daughter lives in another state and is supported by another man. When we first met he gave me this sob story but now it doesn't add up. I think the 4 yr olds BM is a good parent and he has to answer for his lack of parenting with her. It is so much easier with his son who's BM is a nut job. Still, it's wrong.

BM is bipolar. She will tell DH things SS supposedly said about him. Like SS said, "You didn't feed him or make him brush his teeth."

Now obviously if SS said those things he is the liar and DH needs to get involved.

But BM could be making it up to cause drama and upset DH, which she would do. But things she has said in the past about SS have been true, so I tend to believe her.

Been catching SS lying lately, but I'm really concerned.