Just a vent. I *cannot stand* the parents and teachers at my SS and SDs school who insist on creating e-mail lists w/only one parent on it, and that parent is always BM.

There is one exception where I have made a friend of one of SS's classmates mom's and she includes me and my husband as well as BM. Otherwise, it's ridiculous. In both cases there are class lists with everyone's email address, including both bio-parents and my email and stepfather's email. DH and I participate extensively in school, pick the kids up 2-3 days a week, drop them off 2-3 mornings a week, take the kids to evening school events, DH chaperones field trips, we go to bday parties. No, we aren't there *quite* as much as BM b/c she is a stay-at-hom-mom and we both have intensive private firm jobs (plus she is a hoverer, IMO, a helicopter mom, and overdoes the involvement thing just a bit -- that's just between you guys and me and the lamppost!) But we are there a lot and pleasant and friendly.

DH and I talked to both teachers at the beginning of the year about the two-home 50% circumstances and gave them all of our contact info. We are friendly and in frequent communication with the teachers and other parents. But still, only BM gets the emails.

BM is okay about forwarding, a bit late and about 50-75% of the time. I am grateful for her attitude and know that I should count my lucky stars. My problem here is not w/BM. It is w/thick-headed people who can't bother to add one more email address to their list and who think the only person who needs to know anything is the kids' mom. It's inconvenient, it's maddening, it's a bit hurtful, it's LAME. I invest so much energy in my skids and my skids love me to pieces and benefit so much from my care and attention, but I'm like a piece of gum on these people's shoes.

Yes, I know. Don't give a crap about those people. I shrug it off most of the time but sometimes IT JUST BUGS. Good news is today is the last day of school, so next year we start off on a clean slate. Not that it'll be much different.