I was just reading through a few blogs and wanted to pause to thank the universe for having BM get married again several years ago. At the time it was annoying because they'd only dated a few months and got married just two months after we did (we'd been dating nearly 4 years). But BM's husband is a decent guy (if a little ditzy) and EVERYTHING CHANGED after she got married. Within a year it was nearly 180 degrees on her attitude toward boundaries and communication between the two households. She still drives me nuts sometimes but I stop every once in awhile and thank my lucky stars for that marriage because I do believe life would be very, very different and very, very difficult if it hadn't happened.