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How does your DH get SD/SS "water works" to stop?

halfstepmom2skids's picture

sd9 walks around the house destroying and stealing whatever she wants when she gets mad cuz she has no fear. DH will try to yell at her but all she has to do is cry and he backs off. When i question him why there are no consequences, the jerk says "oh can't you see she is sorry". What tips/tricks can i give DH that gets the manipulation/crying to stop?

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thelaststraw's picture

As a father, I can only tell you what has worked for me and it's in my signature. I've told my kids that it's easy - comply with the rules and you get privileges. Don't comply and you will have a mattress on the floor, clothes stacked neatly in piles on the floor, a lamp and nothing else in your room. Don't comply and you will come home from school and go directly to your room. There will be no playing, no TV, no video games.

I'd given that speech once per year starting at the age of 6 for my BS. Divorced my now X, and depsite this, my BS10 and BD9 know the routine so well that they can recite it back. And they fear me still. Now if only X could stop acting like their friend and start acting like their mother...

halfstepmom2skids's picture

You sound like you really parent well, good for you. You don't get guilted to be the nicer parent, even better. Your kids will thank you for it in the long run, and will resent their mother for being their friend, not their parent. Thanks.