so...since Halo has realized that she was a door mat for the last freaking 15 years....and is no longer that door mat.  DH has had to step up and take care of his kid ..by himelf.  Favorite line..not my circus not my monkey.

So in the last 48 hours..DH got to experience SD's lack of planning and went to the wrong restaurant to drop off SD and then had to back track and go to the right restaurant.  He missed part of the football game he wanted to watch. Ha...this scenario has happened multiple time to me....ie SD doesn't get details or the correct details and we end up running around city.  Then there was the other night when SD needed a ride to her sleepover.  DH was tired and didn't feel the best so he tried in vain to get me to take her.  The guilt was high people...and even DD commented boy he really tried to get you to take her.  That was a no.......Halo stayed at home an enjoyed her conversation with DD and DS. 

On today....SD's wellness and med check.  SD has decided she no longer needs her ADD medication.  Dh, who is tired of fighting aoub this topic, told her ok..cool..take it, don't take it.  You choose and you suffer the consequences.  So today at the appointment SD goes on and on about how stressed she is because she is having trouble in school, especially with the AP class she is taking, and how she isn't sleeping etc.  All new to DH..since for the most part....SD isn't sleeping because she is on her phone either talking or making tik tok videos, etc. The ap class...this is the one I flat out said..I don't think she is going to do well in this class, SD is failing. SD cannot think analytically and is not able to apply knowledge to situations.  Read and recite..yep she can do that....actually apply knowledge..nope.  Hate to say I told you so...BUT I TOLD YOU DH.

DH is now comming to the conclusion that SD is not on her way to becoming an adult.  She isn't doing well in school, college seems like a pipe drean and SD won't get her license.  DH is realizing..oh shiznit...SD will not be adulting....and he will be stuck with her.  Not Halo..DH.  DH is now panicing. DH asked SD...so how do you think your going to get to classes and work after you graduate high school.  SD got a deer in the headlight look and said...I don't know..you???  DH said..what about your mom?  SD said oh no she won't do that..its all about her and she won't drive.  I had to point out to DH...you know SD says that shiznit so that you will continue to enable her don't you?  She throws her mom under the bus and you go all out to be sure your NOT like her mother.  He sheepishly admited to oh...shiznit...I think your right.

BAWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.......yep DH that will be YOU with SD...BECAUSE IT WILL NOT BE ME.  I am watching DH's stress and anxiety go up by 100 fold because he can no longer put all this on me....and he has been told by our counselor...nope not my problem.  I'm here to help, if I WANT TO, I don't have too and its certainly not my problems.  In some ways..its gratifying to me to watch DH try and manage the stress of this since I have been doing it for the last 15 years for him while he check out.  He can't use me to do the dirty work and escape to his "games" anymore.

So...the next 18 months till SD is supposed to graduate should prove to be very very interesting.