Hello all...hope the weekend was good to everyone.   Good weather here, yard work completed and s'mores made on the fire pit.

Here is how you lose 14K+ in just a few easy streps.

During the course of our courtship and marrige DH has had 3 custody/child support battles and 3 parenting plan modification.  Yep..its been a long 10+ years.  At one point it seemed we would be in court every year...lucky us.  It's the gift that keeps on giving.

In our first year of marrige, DH unfortunately lost his job due to no fault of his own.  He is in IT and there was new management. New management decided to bring in their own people, which meant DH and his co-workers were out.    DH was let go 2 days before Thanksgiving.  Woohoo...he received 12 weeks of severance pay

Being the good person that he is, DH let Beaver know that he had been layed off and that he had 12 weeks severance.  So for the next 3 months everything would remain the same.  He also asked Beaver, in the event it takes longer than 12 weeks for him to secure an new position (very likely since it was the holiday season and end of year for most business) would Beaver be willing to reduce child support/alimony.

Hahahaha..a normal person would say, of course if that happens we can discuss it.  Beaver..is not normal.  She couldn't possibly accept anything less than the full amount.  Okay...

So, DH applies for everything he is qualified for.  However, being the holiday season it is very slow to get an interview. So..12 weeks go by and DH has had some interviews but no offers.  His severance runs out and he applies for unemployement.  Unemployemnt starts and they take $200 a month for Child support.  Oh my..the hate mail starts.  Beaver was used to getting 1200+ a month...200 was a significant downgrade.  She calls DH and demands that he give her all of his unemployment. Dh asks for a reduction till he receives a new job.  Beaver..nope too bad.  Now I would feel bad somewhat, but Beaver did have a heads up from DH and it isn't like he wasn't trying for a new position.

Ok then...play bitch games you get bitch prizes.  DH and his attorney file with the court for a reduction in child support due to job loss.  Hearing is scheduled for 30 days out and in the meantime Beaver still only gets $200 a month.  

Hearing commences and Beaver's attorney claims DH is not trying to secure new work and thus he should still pay the same amount.  Dh came with a log of every resume sent out, every interview he went to, every thank you letter.  DH and his attorney proved that he was certainly trying to secure work and had pretty much made this is full time job.

Beaver is then asked to supply her income.  She was not happy as why should her income count.  Judge calculates child support and based on Dh's unemployment, Beaver actually owed him.  Bwhahahahahaha....  Dh didn't want that so he agreed to pay Beaver $100 per month until he gets a new position.  DH also informed the court that he had two promising interviews and that he hoped one would produce an offer.  (this is important)

DH was right and he did receive an offer.  He informed his attorney as soon as he signed the offer and his attorney said wait till your first pay check. Then send him a copy and he will forward it to Beaver's attorney and they will recalculate CS.  No problem right..

WRONG....Beaver would not respond to her attorney.  Not a  phone call, not an email, not anything.  Dh, his attorney and her attorney tried for 12 MONTHS..THAT IS RIGHT 12 MONTHS to recalcuate cs.

After about 14 months DH gets a summons to appear in court. Beaver has a new attorney and they are filing for CS, back child support based on the fact that DH hid  his employment for 14 months and lied that he didn't have a job at the last court hearing.

SAY WHAT....

Dh goes to court with his attorney.  Beavers new attorney ( who had just passed the bar about 6 months earlier) claims DH defauded the court, blah, blah, blah...

DH's attorney then enters the emails, the phone calls, DH's offer letter( which was dated after the modification hearing), his start date, first paycheck date. 

The judge review it all, looked up and said..DH has been trying in good faith to recalcuate this for over year.  Beaver's attorney I do not know what line of crap Beaver has been telling you, but she has been avoiding this for over a year.  Due to the fact, that she has proven to be the roadblock for this cs recalculation, I am ordering that all back child support be calculated from the date of the filling for this hearing.   Beaver will not be entitled to any back child support previous to this filing.  Does Beaver have her tax return or her paystub so we can recalcuate this child support today?  Spoiler alert Beaver didn't.....smh.

The hearing was continued for 60 days as there were some holidays coming up ...and thus Beaver was still only getting $100 per month till the next hearing.  

and there you have it...how to lose 14k+ in a few easy steps. 

Best we can tell, Beaver hoped to wait a year....then stick DH with a large amount arrears, get him arrested if he couldn't pay and just generally fuck with his life.  ON flip side, if he did have the cash, she would get a winfall.  Interesting, she kept telling this kids that they would be buying a house soon, she was just waiting for the court hearing to be complete.  Funny, the house purchase never occured.  The joke was on her since DH is a good guy and tried and tried to make this right and in the end she screwed herself out of 14K.  We did find out later, she had to get a new attorney because her old attorney ( who was a shark) fired her for non-compliance.