My title is not completely true. I hoped it would catch the attention of many people going through the same thing I am. I honestly feel it is my partner's fault and lack of disciple that is making me feel this way. I grew up in a very strict but loving house hold and respect was not only earned but it was instilled. I am a very young 30 something that fell in love with a partner that had a child. Now the difference here is that she (SD) doesn't have an active second parent in her life. It's just us. Okay here comes, the part that everyone will judge me over. I believe in discipline.