So I've been the step mother of my twins for 6 years now and the birth mother keeps making indirect stabs at me. I can't say anything or she can find reasons to keep us from seeing the kids. I feel like being a step mother is just a meaningless title. Recently we have had trouble around our house due to our neighbor hood and the lack of respect for others persons personal belongings. When the kids birth mother found out she didn't want us to get the kids because she was worried about their safety.