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Submitted by isthis4me on Sat, 08/29/2009 - 1:55pm

Hello out there. I actually have something hopeful to write this week and I want to share it with those of you who might be in my situation.....
Backstory: Dh and I have been MISREABLE for months, I was DONE last week! BM's behavior and DH's lack of action was putting me over the edge! His once Strong, protective nature has been replaced by a slug.

Another blind DH

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Submitted by isthis4me on Wed, 08/12/2009 - 9:42pm

So BM gets back from her week vaca, she has her kids for a day and a half and needs DH to take them a night earlier than our schedule AND keep them a night beyond Sundays usual drop off. So the tally is In 25 days: DH 20days/BM 5 days. I am not complaining about the extra time but we have 50/50 and are in court trying to get more. BM doesn't care how her needing extra help with the kids makes her look in court bc deep down-she really wants to only be "ACTING Head Bitch in charge".

Sometimes I feel like the few SM's i know want me to think all SM's hate their SKIDS

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Submitted by isthis4me on Sat, 08/08/2009 - 8:04pm

I don't. How many of you can truely say your life would be better without the SKIDS? If BM and DH still were in the same role without the SKIDs? I think the DH and BM should have more accountability than all these SKIDS that didn't start out as demons.

Counseling = no court, I don't think so...

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Submitted by isthis4me on Fri, 08/07/2009 - 6:33pm

So my DH is under the impression that this new therapist may be the answer to avoiding court or at least not having to pay for a parenting evaluation. He thinks that the therapist may be enough to testify against BM and her instability.
Do any of you have any experience with this?
Can a therapist be all we need if BM, DH and SKids are all going to a mutually agreed on person and that person finds the BM to be unfit??

Can you pin point what event or interaction made BM hate you?

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Submitted by isthis4me on Tue, 08/04/2009 - 5:55pm

I often wonder what BM tells people. I can not recall any major incident that made BM be so horrible to me. It was there from the beginning but I know in her very twisted mind something escalated it...I wish I could ask her.
I always stayed away and never was confrontational or talked badly about her to her kids. I think the first nasty remark was bc I told SS-10 at the time not to use Stridex bc it would dry out his skin and when he told BM she started texting DH like crazy about me and how I am not his Mother, blah blah, blah....

After the wasted mediation....

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Submitted by isthis4me on Sun, 08/02/2009 - 8:10pm

Okay, so I did not go with DH. It took 3 hours and the only decision made was that we are going to pay for a counselor that BM/DH agree to but we pay for??
She refused any modification of schedule or cs.
I am feeling very emotional...Our Attorney told BM that we are requesting a court date AND getting a parenting evaluation no more mediation. This will cost about an additional $10k. What I want to know is why did we waste 3 hours in mediation that wasted $1k.