Yesterday, I sent my partner a text message (been together 7 years, married almost 2, we are both women) stating that I thought it might be a good idea to sit down this weekend and have a conversation about the oldest in the house who will be graduating and an adult soon. Clearly, this was a mistake. She stated that all I did was make her mind wander and that it was a horrible thing to do. I did it this way because we are a high conflict couple. We cannot have conversations about kids (specifically hers) without it getting out of control on the fly, so I tried this.