This my first time doing this. I feel lost in some ways. I had been with my wife for 13yrs and I have raised my stepson. His now 17yrs. My stepson has autistic spectrum and adhd. He doesn't see like he has this disability. I had help him with struggles, yes I'm strict parents but supportive. As for his mother she has a focused issues and she very lean back with him. There is no structure on her part and no guidance.  I feel like I doing both jobs as parent for him and step parent. However he lies too much and procrastinate a lot.