I posted about SD63's recent Dr appt where she bombarded me with her health issues (tremors, leaking, infected breast implants, heart issues, knee requiring replacement along with the Barrett's esophagus, ulcer and anemia), car problems ("tell Dad it will cost $800 to get it to pass inspection") and  problems with her one remaining kid who still speaks to her.  Following that day, he and I both called several days to follow up but she never answered or returned calls.  I was waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I'm looking at this from the divorced dad's perspective  but I'm missing a lot of info.  Anyway, my 80+ male neighbor died 10 months ago.  He married his wife, who was living there with her 1st husband, when we moved in 51 years ago.  They seemed very happy, she had been in a very limited situation and the new husband, R, was proud to take her to car races, out in his boat, etc 

SD63 asked to come over this morning to update me on her situation.  This was so ominous, I've been dreading it all week.

Guess what?  She never showed and didn't call.  What a relief!

When she was here several days ago, she went through a long detailed organ recital about many serious conditions.  When she asked to come over, I said I hoped it wasn't about money cuz I was tapped out.  So, all week, I've been wondering, if its not health or money, what else?  I know she has probs with all 3 of her kids but DH87 and I always refuse to get involved.

I posted gift suggestions for older adults last year but here it is again for new members.  DH87 and I 79 have all the "things" we need and, actually, we are trying to unload stuff on our poor kids, lol.  We still live independently in a middle class suburb.  I've also included suggestions other Steptalkers added last year.  Please feel free to add more.