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FAMILY COUNSLING IS A JOKE!!!

jstorie's picture

My sd is in a theraputic home has been since July. I don't think it is doing her any good. I didn't go to family counsling saturday becuase I had already made plans to go do a painting class. So we had a phone family counsling on Tuesday. I really didn't say a word, sd didn't even ask if i am there. counsler asks if she had been making phone calls to me. sd said well i didn't monday becuase we got calls before she even got off work. which is true. then she got another one that evening and called her grandmother. sd gets very hateful and mad and angry yelling at me that she has a life that it shouldn't matter who she calls and blah blah blah. it was an hour of hatefullness to me. My dh told her maybe no one would think she hated me if she would stop being so ugly to me. I told sd that it didn't bother me she didn't call me she made her phone call but that what was bothering me was the way she was treating me at that moment. she goes yeah yeah its always all about you isn't mom. WTH? then the counsler said ok...(her name) how does that make you feel then. sd gets mad and says oh now you want to talk about me great. I got so upset i walked out of the room. So for the entire freakin hour my sd was im done i don't want to talk. i don't care about pass this weekend, i don't want to go home. and would not answer one damn question.
SO OVER THIS.

so dh and i were laying in bed he asks if im okay. and i say not really i said is this really how our life is going to be you and your mom go with sd. and i go with the biosons. he said wait i thought you were going on pass this weekend that we were going to meet you and the aquarium so she could see her brothers. i said yeah right like im going to go up there to have someone treat me like shit, or act fake. no freakin thanks. he moaned and said okay dear be that way.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

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ChiefGrownup's picture

Be that way?????!!!! Are you kidding me? Tell him calmly, "I do not intend to spend one more minute of my life being treated like that. I don't let waiters, cashiers, or bill collectors treat me like that -- she does not have a golden license to do it."

And the next time you are in a situation like that family counseling -- speak up. "Hey, counselor? this is jstorie speaking. I don't intend to be spoken to that way, in counseling or out. I'll be leaving the room now." Call her back later and tell her "if you think skid is making progress and can behave civilized for 50 minutes, let me know. Otherwise I will not be participating."

jstorie's picture

WHY IS THIS SO HARD! AND WHY DOES SHE GET A PASS THIS WEEKEND WHEN SHE TREATS ME LIKE SHIT. IM REALLY FREAKIN UPSET!