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Submitted by jstorie on Mon, 12/08/2014 - 9:44am

so sd14 got kicked out of the residential treatment center she was telling doctors how much better she felt and was having no anxiety and just perfect....the dr just took her freakin word for it. and they discharged her. with no real family therapy talks no anything, called us friday told us to pick her up Sunday.didn't even discuss problems that might occur

Well everything sounded great as DH and I were talking about rules and how we need to do things and how he is going to be the head of the house and take care of sd14.

Then she comes home and I can't keep my freakin word on anything.
Things i shouldn't care about. That have bothered me in the past and i said i would just walk away from. im not.

one day guys and its me this time its not her!
I cant walk away i cant let it all go.
I can't seem to let my DH take control
because IM SO FREAKIN ANGRY ABOUT THE PAST.
Do i even want her to succeed?
No i just want her gone! Im done. and i don't know how to live with someone 24/7 365 days a year that has treated me like shit for 6 years and i can't just let it go. and i don't know how to dissengage without being a bitch to her. cause that is what i have become a mean bitch. and i hate myself for it.

all these feeling were brought up becuase i worked late and she came in our room 4x this morning to wake her dad up becuase she couldn't sleep.

i was set off by something STUPID!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Mon, 12/08/2014 - 10:02am

Give her a sleeping pill and tell her to go away. At 14 she should be able to take care of herself. They probably were medicating her there for sleep and she is out of whack.

You also, sound like me not getting past the crap they put us through. Therapy may help that. Also, learning to walk away.

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Submitted by ItHasGottenBetter on Mon, 12/08/2014 - 11:44am

Try melatonin for her to sleep. You may want to go with a higher dose. I take 10mg. There are still nights its hard for me to fall asleep, but it is better than not sleeping for 6 nights a week.

We always try and stay away from people that have done us wrong, so it is unnatural to be cooped up with someone like that. Can you afford counseling for just you? Having that neutral person may help you to overcome the anger.

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Submitted by simifan on Mon, 12/08/2014 - 3:58pm

I be angry at BS if he woke me 4 times because he couldn't sleep and he's 12 & I birthed him. You need to direct your anger where it belongs - DH. Why is he allowing this child to do this? Where are the consequences? Why isn't he protecting you from her BS? If he can't get her to entertain herself then his behind needs to be on the couch where she can wake him at will without disturbing you.