Hi, am new to this site. Some advice would be much appreciated. I am married, we have 3kids. 7year old son(mine from a previous relationship), 6year old son(his from a past relationship) and 3year old daughter (ours). SS6 doesnt live with us coz his bio mum insists he is still young and needs a "real mum" in his life. We have him over for visits and some of the holidays. he gets along fine with the other too. We used to get along ok even though he always looks at me with a lot of fear in his eyes. He will stop talking immediately i get into a room, will not talk to Dad when am around but is very chatty with him when am in the next room.When he is around its like literally walking on egg shells. He talks too much. Recently the nanny told me he was saying in full hearing of the other kids that his BM told him he is the ONLY son of his dad and thats why he looks so much like him. i was so hurt by these remarks. My son7 has never seen his dad because he moved to another state before he was born, he sends support though and is in touch on phone. My son only knows one Dad although am planning to tell him about his bio dad. I just didnt think it was the right time to give him such news better when he is a bit older and can understand it all better. Am upset with the way things are turning out. Plus SS6 bio mum just refuses to cooperate, recently she changed the school without as much as consulting the dad! And what infuriates me is that whenever i mention that she is taking us for granted DH puts on a gloomy face. The she has the annoying habit of keeping in touch with the inlaws, visiting them and dragging the boy along on her visits. She has a child with another man but she is still hell bent on being present in DH's life never mind that she was the one who walked out on the relationship when he lost a job! Its driving me crazy the way she has turned SS6 against me, the boy thinks i was the cause of their break up. And because she is frustrated with her current relationship she wants to take it out on us by poisoning the boy's mind. Recently he got so angry that i came in driving the family car, which in his naive mind he thinks is the dad's car which i am not supposed to drive! Then he has this irritating habit of comparing me to his BM, pointing at everything i have and saying my mummy also has this, that or the other! I feel like there's three of us in this relationship and my input is only sought when it suits them. Like i can't decide on the school but when it comes to choosing good clothes or throwing a good birthday party for SS am thrown on board!Its breaking me down. DH pays school fees /buys clothes only for SS6. My ex does the same for BS7 though he doesnt make any major decisions seeing as he is away. DH on the other hand only has responsibilities but not rights and am supposed to shut mum about that. Its crazy