Stepson Who Still Lives at Home
Before my husband and I got married I knew his son lived at home - he was 27 at the time. He is now 29 years old and is still living with us. He got some money when we bought our house from the estate and is supposedly looking for a place to stay. As when I moved in he does almost nothing around the house and the only financial responsibility he has is to pay our Internet bill - this came about when I expressed my frustration to hubby about the fact that he doesn't contribute. I wasn't raised that way and it makes me a little crazy.
My husband said that SS is looking at condos - he wants to live by himself, but I don't see how he can afford that given he has a low paying job although he would have money for a downpayment. I would like to set a date that he has to be out of the house but this is a sensitive topic and I am not sure how to approach hubby about this. I do occassionally ask about status but trying to be patient. His being there affects my sleep - he is up and down the stairs at least 3-4 times a night for his beer runs until about 11:00 at night. It doesn't help that everything wakes me up.
Any suggestions on how to handle this?
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Two years and he's still
Two years and he's still looking for a condo? Soon you'll have a 30 yr old man keeping you up at night. It sounds like neither of them really have any intentions of ss ever moving out. When you move in with a man and his 27 yr old son is living with him, it just might be a red flage.
The man is 29 years old, I
The man is 29 years old, I would not care if it was a "sensitive" topic, he needs to go.
But then, I would not have moved in with them in the first place. That's how I would have handled it.
If he had, and has, no financial responsibilities, he should have plenty saved to move out.
You are just going to have to bite the bullet and have a sit down with your husband about a move out date for his alcoholic baby.
Yes, he needs a move-out date
Yes, he needs a move-out date or He will still be there in his 40s. He buys a mini fridge for his beer in the meantime.
You need to have a serious
You need to have a serious talk with DH. SS needs to leave as soon as possible. He's almost 30. That's sad. And you and DH deserve privacy and not a moocher.
He is 29
Dad needs to come up with an action plan. With a short date.
Well - you married him with
Well - you married him with his son living there. Was there any discussion about how long he'd live there?
I think alot often marry assuming they’d move out shortly after
It isn’t until becoming members of steptalk that they realise the shithole they are in.
I am moving back to my country in 2 months time as we’re registering our eldest for school, something we wanted because of much better education system and job opportunities. Hubby will retire early shortly after. Ss will be 21 next month, he lives with us when not ar university and has no job. He messages hubby when he’s running out of money
in hubbys head giving him an allowance gives him sole focus on his studies to get better grades. Except he hasn’t learn to be financially independent and we have a 23 yr old sd still getting an allowance from daddy every month despite having a full time graduate job for 3 months already.
when i move overseas there will never be a day skids and especially ss will live with us.... i will fight till death on this one thing.... they don’t feel remotely embarrassed to be living at home with daddy and stepmum or leeching off of them as grown adults... yet they act like they know everything when they know jackshit