need some advice!
I have 3 sdaughters and 2 of them are married with kids. The oldest daughter (38) is a nasty toxic person. Much like all I read in blogs. Youngest daughter son told me that he has a Christmas play tomorrow night which I wasn't invited to attend. He wants me to attend and started telling me about it. Daughter just stood there and didn't say a word. SD mom and new husband and husbands parents are going along wth 2 other SDs and my husbands parents. Should I call and dicuss wth SD or just not go. These girls have always treated me like crap. I buy them birthday and Christmas gifts for them and their families and they dont even call me an say thank you or give me as much as a card.
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Don't even call and discuss,
Don't even call and discuss, just go and sit in the back row. Later you can tell your grandson that you loved him in the Christmas play.
Win-win, you go for him an they don't know you're there.
I dont want to buy them all
I dont want to buy them all gifts, but my husband would be upset if I dont. It cost alot of money to buy all those gifts. I think it would be better to just not have them in my life. I think I can do it after finding this site. I was feeling all alone.
if sgkid invited you to go,
if sgkid invited you to go, you've been invited now. if you want to go, go. does dh want to go see his grandson? It would be best for you to go together to support sgkid. As for gifts, I don't buy any separate gifts this year. Not one. my name is on everything from dh to his kids, his name is on everything to my kids. we spent more on some, less on others. those who have consistently stopped over and visited and helped grandparents and us when we've needed it, have inquired how we're doing remember mothers and fathers day and birthdays... got more. we don't feel guilty in the least. we're happy and we've got each others backs.
I understand what Stepaside
I understand what Stepaside is saying but to me that is just unrealistic... I wouldn't want to jeopardize my relationship with my grandkids just bc SD is a B. Grandson is not going to understand that you didn't attend his play bc his mommy doesn't like you or invite you. He invited you. I would go with DH. Do not worry about seeing any of them there. You are there for SS. I wouldn't miss my grandsons play bc of sd's ignorance. If they say anything to you about it, I would just say "grandson asked me to go, so we came to see him, be apart of his special day and we were not willing to miss out on such a special occasion/ memory just bc you failed to "invite" us. This is an open play to all the children's family and friends... I'm sorry if it offends you that I am here even tho you didn't give me an invite but you should know that we are not here to spite you in any way. Just here to show grandson our love, support and to tell him how proud we are of his wonderful job on stage.'' Don't let her spoil it for you or convince you that you have no right to be there. You love him and and he loves you, that gives you all the right to be there in the world.