BM reported DH and I to CPS saying 'i hit DD2 so hard she got knocked to the ground and that DH left them in the car to go grocery shopping'. Both, of course, are false. This report came in after BM put in to get his visitation reduced and a show cause for child support (that he's been paying). She's trying to strengthen her case because there is no valid reason that any court would decrease DH's time with SD10. But why throw my kids in the middle? BM has been filling DH's head with "SD doesnt want to come over" and BM has been setting DH to look like the bad guy a lot lately. Example: BM invited us to Sd's baseball game. When we got there it was actually a try out. SD made the team but of course all the games and practices were on DH's visitation days. DH said no. It turned into a huge fight. SD started crying out loud, the coach came over and tried to get involved, BM calling DH a bad parent and how disappointed SD was and him actually calling her out for setting this whole thing up. So I think she has been on a war path ever since and she doesnt care who she takes down. She told DH she was getting his time reduced and that he could have supervised visits until the court date in March. He told her nothing abosut the paper work has actually changed and he wanted his visitation. She countered with he could have supervised visits. He said no. So now all this has happened.

And his family isnt really helping. His mom came over after she got the news and her whole thing was she hopes everything works out ok and that what is best for all the kids is what pervails. I know that sounds great but SD10 is telling her mom what ever she wants to hear and its my two kids that are being played with like pawns. His whole family from the start have always been pro BM and while they dont believe any of this it really grinds my gears that she is "interest of ALL the children". I have been saying for years that BM is crazy and I always get "you should cooperate, y'all are a blended family, all the kids, blah blah blah" so i had to just say to my Mil that everyone wants me to be the better person amd think about all 3 kids but you never hold BM accountable for her actions. Y'all would sell my 2 kids down the river if it meant that y'all could see SD10. Part of it was hurt, but that really is how they act, I just finally said something about it.

My husband wasnt too fond of what I said but thats literally been his family the whole time we've been together and while I thought it was a balanced position for a MIL to take especially because she saw everything that happened before I was in the picture, it's just no longer valid. 

The social worker came to the house to do an inspection and she said everything was OK, and she had talked to SD10 at school. SD said she felt safe with us, she loves her sisters and that if she could change anything she would want to do more things when she's with us. That, to me, said that BM was making things up but I don't doubt that SD isnt telling her something. I say this because in BM's court paper work wjere she had to say why she wanted to amend the visitation she said that "Step mom is rude, tells SD to stop snitching on them, SD comes home hungry and says its because she was snitching, they don't allow her to have a phone which is how she contacts BM, we have 5 roommates and the toilet doesnt work".

None of that she would know of SD hadn't told her some 10 yo version of the truth, which is the toilet flushed slowly until we replaced it, my brother loves with us because he has a back injury (BM's mom lives with them) the snitching thing is SD was having a hard time with a bully at school and would tell on him all the time and SD was wondering why he kept bullying her. I said stop snitching and actually work it out with him. In that same conversation I told her what snitching was "tattle telling to get someone in trouble" but I tald her she shoyld always tell an adult if she feels unsafe. But I know SD and she does tell on people to get them in trouble. The hungry part is because SD is so accustomed to eating out when she is with us or eating snacks that when we actually cook she doesnt want to eat real food so she picks with it says her tummy hurts then wants to eat later which turns in to her being hungry at her moms house. And the phone thing is because people in my family had said they caught SD doing wierd stuff like videoing the toilet, recording my laundry room and i caught her trying to record me breast feeding.

If you're still here, thanks. Part of me knows this is just a 10 yo being 10 and using a situatuon to her advantage but her mom is unhinged. I'm trying to find it in my heart not to hold it against SD but my "you're trying to mess with my kids" switch has been flipped and everyone that played a part in this is an enemy. The first visitation since this has started is tomorrow and DH wants to act like none of this happened. I just can't. That's too much to ask from me.