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Submitted by Light9 on Sat, 05/04/2013 - 12:29am

I'm an Ozzy girl with five step kids, none of my own. We recently moved to the country. Because my youngest step son, 7, has moved so much with his bio mum and been in day care from 3 months of age....he has been very unsettled, has behavioral problems and on many different medications ...none of which his bio mum gained consent for. My problem now, however, is my neighbour. She has a 'wall' up and very hard to just tslk to. She and her hubby have 4 kids.

Step mum to 5.....40 years old...feel tired...am I crazy to consider a bio child of my own?

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Submitted by Light9 on Mon, 03/18/2013 - 7:17pm

I look after my husband's 3 youngest kids on weekends and half school holidays. He also has 2 older boys who stay for the odd weekend and longer during holidays. The youngest boy is very demanding and has troubled behaviors at school. I love his kids but I suffer depression and low energy. I work PT as a nurse and always feel pretty relieved when the kids go back to their mum. My husband has worked hard all his life but I think he totally underestimates how having a baby will affect our lives.

The most confused I have ever been...

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Submitted by Light9 on Tue, 03/12/2013 - 2:11am

My husband has 5 kids and I adore them all. the youngest is a handful but much better with every passing year. I truly do adore these kids and as the two older ones are reaching 17 and 15 we are seeing less and less of them (glued to their friends). Money has always been tight since I met my husband and his family but we managed to have a vasectomy reversal done a few months ago. I fell pregnant very quickly, however, I have just lost the baby sadly. What I didn't expect to feel quite as much as I have...is RELIEF.

Step parent to 5...husband driving me nuts!!!

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Submitted by Light9 on Sun, 03/03/2013 - 12:55am

I am step mum to 5 with one of my own on the way. I love my step kids dearly but I simply cannot fathom how my DH and their BM can allow them to be so "free and easy". They do no chores, there is no expectation for them to work or find jobs, they wag school constantly, one has been in several fights....and the parents are like "oh the other kid was the trouble maker" or "don't pressure them to find work they are still at school"....aaaaargh! I try to disengage but with one on the way I am concerned that we will disagree on everything.