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Marrying a man with kids

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Is the smartest thing I've ever done. I can't relate at all to all the people on here complaining about their step kids.

Step kids are a beautiful bonus gift from God, a blessing to be cherished.

Is anybody actually buying this bullsh*t?

April Fool's, suckers! }:)

Stepparenting sucks!

Anyone ever buy or consider a duplex house to deal with steplife?

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After 3.5 years of marriage, and SD21 ruining my lovely bathroom by getting permanent blue hair dye all over everything (including my marble vanity top) the night before last, I have accepted that I cannot live with my DH and his three “kids,” ages 21, 18, and 15. I’m just so sick of cleaning up after these people.

On top of that, DH has stated that he’d “love it” if all of his kids chose to live there into adulthood. Since their parents have taught them very well to freeload and take without giving (poor CODs, after all), that’s a real possibility.

I think of my skids as my own; in fact, I prefer them to my own bios!

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April Fool's, suckers! }:)

Was anyone actually buying that shit?

P.S. I don't actually have any bios. I was already 40 when I married DH, and I did wonder a little regretfully if I had missed out on something.

Now, I've seen what it was I was missing.

Ever doubt the paternity of your skids?

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My DH has three kids, ages 14 to 20, with one BM.

Not one of them has a single one of his physical characteristics. Not a curly hair, cleft chin, long/lean body type, green eye or peg tooth among them. (I guess I made DH sound homely, but he’s actually very cute.:))

DH has one nephew (20), who looks more like him than any of his own kids do. Because the nephew has characteristics of his father, who is DH’s brother.

Surprise, surprise…everything really IS my fault!

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On our way to church this morning, DH told me that he doesn’t like going to church with me anymore because SS14 doesn’t go anymore. We have been married nearly 2.5 years, and going to church has always been a part of our life together. I was so hurt that I turned around and went home instead.

His son has gone with us to our church maybe a total of 6-7 times. About 6 weeks ago, he went with us 2 weeks in a row. Now he hasn’t been in several weeks, and doesn’t show any interest in going. So DH can no longer enjoy an activity with me that his kid doesn’t want to participate in.

Not doing diddly for DH this Father's Day

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All of the talk about Mother's Day got me thinking about Father's Day being on its heels.

I've decided that, this year and going forward, I will no longer orchestrate any celebration of Father's Day for DH on behalf of his three kids.

Since we've been together, I've always bought a nice card and had them sign and present it to him at a special meal I spend hours preparing.

O/T Anybody have the Essure procedure for permanent birth control?

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It is the relatively new, non-surgical alternative to tubal ligation in which the tubes are blocked with a small insert that is placed in each tube. It's done in your doctor's office.

I think I'm too old (43) to bother with it now, since I'm already very near the end of my child-bearing years. My ParaGard IUD causes incredible menstrual cramps, though, and I'm sure not interested in risking a pregnancy on top of the skids.

Anybody have this done, or know someone who did?

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