husbands 9yr daughter our 20mo daughter 2.5 yr son all have the same rules! they have same punishments to age ratio. all live with daily. 20mo baby stands in time out .not joke. step sons 3yr and 7yr have no rules at all! boys come over 1 nite week. its complete hell even 9yr wants to leave the house. husband says she has to stay and play with brother that shoot other kids with nurf guns. brake toys books color one the walls. they are animals! even hit me flip me off. i get in trouble when i put them in timeout or take the guns away. im always the bitch then it comes to the step sons.