Im pretty new here and have been reading everyone's blogs and taken a lot it. I want to thank so many of you. Its nice to know I am not alone.

I'm finding FDH and I having quite serious discussions a couple times a week. Im happy to say the communication is healthy and good. After, we feel closer than we did before and appreciate the other for the ability to be so open. I have taken a lot of what I have learned here and applied it to our talks. I had to set FDH in his place. No, I can't take his BM's place. Yes, I have to implement boundaries. AND, I am allowed to feel frustrated and stressed out by SS just like everyone else. I have also gotten FDH on the same page with me and his own father about SS14's mental health issues and developmental delays. I know its a long road but finally, SS can start getting the help and support he needs. I know it won't be easy, and I know the extra issues complicate things even more but I have much more hope.

I must admit, I'm enjoying that SS is sick, out of commission for a few days and out of my hair. And, not feel guilty about it.
Im also happy to be getting out of town with just FDH for Valentine's Day weekend! <3
So, just wanted to be able to post something positive for a change.