I was trying to put myself in his place to help GC, and I realized-how difficult it has to be to be him.
I know our end isn't easy by any means but I think I appreciate how complicated he has to feel- I worry about keeping my kids safe and happy, dinners, lunches calendars that stuff.....
DH has to worry about trying to balance his work demands with family demands, keeping me and the kids all happy not to mention spending time with his other family which is hard for him because he has so much on his plate.

okay so SD(15) came home from BMs again today(BM actually did take her back to finish visit after her drama, ),As usual there were promises and plans- a shopping spree, six flags, and all that- they were supposed to be camping during the 4th so we couldn't take her to do our traditional thing cause we have had her the last several years in a row- mostly because BM rarely does anything for any holiday- except a self pitty party!

How many of us here have a "step"parent, and what were our relationships with these people like?

I have been reading other blogs and have often wondered if we get into it partially because we have experienced it first hand(other role),

I Had a wonderful SM, met her only after my mothers death when I was 14, but we had a really loving relationship- even my moms- mother loved this women. I lost her a few years back and still hope to be as loving and understanding as she was for the last part of my adolescence.

So for those of you who didn't read the old stuff last summer BM took SD for the first week- we sent the food of course, then the next visit lasted one day (instead of two weeks) the next less than a day, so SD left tonight for the first visit----- anyone feeling my anxiety?