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Would you feel comfortable?

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Would you feel comfortable going with your new baby to your boyfriend’s ex’s house for their daughters birthday? Feel like it’s super awkward. Especially since our relationship is not in a good place right now. I’m on the fence. She is always nice but my boyfriend is talking about us going over there to hang out for a while. If I’m being honest I don’t exactly feel comfortable. I just had a baby confidence isn’t the highest our relationship is on the rocks. And I just don’t feel like being judged or dissected.

Uncomfortable anyone?

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Super awkward cuz I’m laying on the couch watching a movie with my husband and 10 yr old step daughter and they are cuddled up together her leg on top of his while I’m sitting in the corner of the couch. Just weird feeling like a third wheel with my own husband on valentine’s day. Can anyone relate? And what did you do about it? It’s always like this where I’m just on the corner and they are snuggled up together so I tend to not even bother watching movies with them. Just feels weird.

Disengage, Eff this!

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Idk if anyone has disengaged from both partner and step child but I am doing so now. I spent the entire day cleaning the whole house by myself of course cuz no one else does shit around here. Partner thinks cuz he pays most of the bills he doesn't have to do shit else. I still pay half the rent and my car and anything for myself and most things for our son and half the groceries but he pays like the small bills alone because he requested it be that way.

Constantly All About SD

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Just need to vent. So my baby is now 4 months old. Things have been going good. BD finally started seeing what I was dealing with my SD11 and put a stop to it. But one thing hasn't changed. Him putting her above everyone else in the house. He has to try and convince her now that my son loves her more than anyone else lol and that he only looks at her a certain way no one else except me only when he's breastfeeding. I'm like wtf are you even talking about? Like why is that necessary.

Crazy situation...lies being told

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So a while back my bf and I got in an argument and he mentioned that his ex told him his daughter said I ignore her when she is with us. That I don’t talk to her or do anything with her. I was extremely upset even cried because I felt like that was a slap in the face. I literally do everything for her and we would eat dinner of her choice every night together and watch a movie or one of her shows together and sometimes have dessert all while her dad is at work. We spent most days together because he works a lot. She is 11. I don’t understand why she would lie.

Don’t know what to do constantly feeling unworthy of anything I need in this relationship

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Just gave birth a little while ago Im in so much pain the recovery feels worse than the birth itself honestly. I can barely move or even walk without pain. I’m super emotional and all over the place. Trying to figure everything out. This morning I was so exhausted because my baby didn’t really sleep much they just wanted to feed and refuse to sleep in their bassinet at all everytime I put them in they cried I felt like crying myself. My boyfriend slept the whole night didn’t wake up once to help and I didn’t complain at all but it’s insane how little he understands this is impacting me.

What Do You Think? What Do I Do?

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Idk how anyone does it. I try my hardest to be a good partner to my boyfriend and be the best person to his daughter and do everything I can for her. Take care of her, spoil her, treat her well. And it just seems like no matter what I do she has to always do something to make me uncomfortable. Everytime she is here. I’m pregnant with her brother. Me and her dad have been together for over two years I’ve been in her life doing things for her more than her own parents sometimes. You’d think she would see it or feel something. We are sitting watching tv enjoying time as a family.

Can’t believe this

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Step daughter went out of state with some other family for a bit to visit more family and just got back yesterday. Me and partner agreed she would stay with her mom for a bit to quarantine since I am 8 months pregnant with asthma just to be safe. I guess she was upset that she had to stay with mom and was crying so her dad gave in and told her she could come tomorrow without talking to me about it then just randomly drops the bomb on me casually while we are snacking and watching tv.

How Do We Handle This!?

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Feeling a little stressed for when the baby comes. I have a 10 year old step daughter who is with us 50/50 week by week and her mom isn’t as strict on covid precautions as we are. Like she still travels with her and they go eat at places and her little cousin is in daycare and she’s around her a lot. I’m worried that when the baby comes it’s not going to be a safe environment. We also aren’t told about things sometimes and end up finding out from my step daughter after the fact and it’s just scary. I’m not really sure what we can do.

Anyone experienced this?

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My boyfriends daughter keeps having breakdowns all the time. She literally cry’s about everything and part of me feels bad but another part of me feels like it’s for attention. She is upset there is another baby coming and she is upset that she has to split time between two households and her parents aren’t together. And she is upset that her dad works. And she is upset when other kids don’t give her their full attention or want to play.

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