DH and I have been together for two years, and while my SD15 and SD12 have been difficult since we met, I've remained hopeful and optomistic that I could help and do some good for them since thier BM abandoned them and they really need a mother figure. For the first time though, I have become discouraged. A lot of it has to do with their total lack of care and my DH's total disregard for the rules we agreed to together. My BS12 and BD16 are totally fed with the the SDs' behavior too.