SS8's clinginess annoys the crap out me!!
DH has just left for the gym, I did want to go as well but thought I'd let him go instead and I'd stay home and watch SS, but DH just came in and said that SS wanted to go with him to sit there and watch him lift weights!!! Eff me!! Really?! You'd think I'd be happy he is out of the house for the next hour or so but it annoys me that he can't even let his Dad go to the gym solo!! I'm sure he would stand there and watch him on the toilet and hold his hand if DH let him!!! DH can't even leave the room without SS wanting to know where he is going and what he is doing!!
We have him 2 weeks on, then 2 weeks off and the 2 weeks he's here I hardly have any time alone with DH except when we are in bed at night!! It's like SS just needs all of his Dad's attention ALL of the time!!!! And even on our 2 weeks off, he's here for breakfast and school drop off every school day as his BM starts work early!! I just dread having him around and don't know how I can control or change my train of thought!!! He just annoys the crap out of me!!
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That would annoy the shit out
That would annoy the shit out of me too. The best thing is, though, to hide your annoyance. Kids pick up on emotions, I believe that they are still very animalistic and lack the maturity and sophistication to be considerate of others. On a positive note, the more clingy he is as a child the more independant young adult he will become. Meanwhile, I hear you and I know how hard it is. If it's all worth it then hang in there.
At age 8, I think it's
At age 8, I think it's unusual for a boy especially to be that clingy. Is he effeminate?
SS9 is the exact same way.
SS9 is the exact same way. Still calls DH 'dada' and comes looking for him if DH gets out of his sight for more than 30 seconds. When DH sits down, SS9 will go sit right next to him, put his head against him, hold onto his arm and stroke it or nuzzle his head all over DH, murmuring the whole time. SO WEIRD!!
I wish I had the answer about how to change our thoughts about this stuff. I usually just have to leave the room.
I can completely understand
I can completely understand the night time togetherness. When SS almost 6 and SD almost 8 are at the house for their week long visit twice a month it's the same thing. SS is always all over DH. In fact DH has gotten to the point where he is actually saying something to SS now. SD even made a comment the other day when she wanted DH to sit next to her at the table durring dinner and I made a comment about how I had just got home from work and haven't seen DH all day that my time is pretty much after she goes to bed. So in her eyes, DH is all hers while she is awake and I can have whatever is left of him after they have sucked the life out of him all day by constantly being up his a$$, needy, whiny, clingy, and pissing him off. Sounds like a fair trade right? WTF ever.
No, he's not girly in any way
No, he's not girly in any way ctnmom! I actually had to look up the definition!!!
SS does that too dreadingit.... Will sit next to DH on the lounge and hug his arm!!! I normally just walk out of the room! He is actually turning 9 next week and I did hope the clinginess would stop...but I can't see that happening!!
I know SS is trying to cram a lot into his 2 weeks when he is here, and he is obviously trying to get all the attention he can. Not sure that his BM is attentive enough when he is with her. I'll admit I don't enjoy being affectionate with him! I wish I did, but there's just something about him that makes me back away! I go in to kiss him goodnight every night, but don't find any joy in it what so ever!!