Not happy with the Xmas gifts??? What do we do?
Well, here I am again. My H ex-SD (ages 27-29-these are his Ex-wife's children, not his blood children. He was married to her for 15 yrs) were unhappy that I had a picture of my family and mailed out as xmas cards. My H told me to send the 2 ex-SD a picture/card. In the picture were my kids, grandchildren and my husband and me. They thought they should be in it. Mind you that it is very hard to get everyone together. So, at Thanksgiving my children were invited to my oldest child's home for dinner. Perfect time to snap a picture! The ex-sd were also mad that my H's mother was invited also. She is 70 and a widow. She had no place to go.
This caused a BIG WAR between them and my H. I was informed (by a phone call)by one of the ex-SD that NO MATTER WHAT, if they are not happy I will be the one to blame. I was also informed that they are not happy that my H and I have a new bigger home. They did not get that and their Mom always wanted one. Both girls started "trash talking" me. When my H asked "Do you remember everything that Mary has done for you"? Her response was "I wondered when you were going to put that in my face." Of course the exW had to get involved. (they all hate me)
Now here is a good one....I went out and bought a WII for both ex-SD's family as a Xmas gift. When the girls started acting this way my H decided to send each on the the kids a $100 savings bond. They were furious. One girl called me and asked is this ALL the kids are getting? My H asked me to mail them to the kids. Now they are mad that it was in my hand writing. One girl told my H the she will not allow her children to ever call him grandpa again.
I could go on and on with things they have said to my H.
Here is the question......My H is livid with them. What would you do in this situation?
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What would I do....
Hmmmm......
I would tell the materialistic little bastards to take their friggin' attitudes and stick them where the sun don't shine.
What ungrateful brats...I can't imagine how you must feel - just hearing the story is pissing me off...Next year you should make a donation in their name to whatever charity and send them the card that says "For Christmas this year, a donation has been made in your name to those that are so much less fortunate than you....Merry Christmas"
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
I agree
I would do the same thing Colorado girl...nothing annoys me more than ungrateful people at christmas. There are people out there that get nothing for the holidays and it's sad that people are so self absorbed.
I wouldn't send them jack next year
They don't like the gifts?!
I'd tell them tough shit and never send them another thing.
~ Anne ~
"Adjust on the fly, or you're going to cry."
Steve Doocy, The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook
Either they don't like their
Either they don't like their gifts or they they are just rude. Mine liked their cash and wanted to run out the door back to Mommy and her family as soon as they got it! 12 and 13 are old enough to know better IMO and Father shouldn't have allowed it. They didn't spend 30 minutes with my family and walked out the door with a lot of cash and gifts. They thanked everyone very politely, but their insistence on returning to the same family they had just spent all day and night Christmas Eve rather than spending some time with the people who just lined their pockets was too much for me to deal with.
rude behavior
the story with us was that step kids ran in, collected their money and gifts from my family and then insisted they be returned to their BM's family, the only family who matters. Dad doesn't matter, his family doesn't matter and mine certainly doesn't matter. They spend all day and night Christmas Eve with Mom and her family and all morning Christmas day until 2pm. Spent about an hour with Dad's family before they begin insisting they had to go. Ran to be with my family and within 30 minutes same thing. I was furious at them and at their Father for allowing such behavior. My family includes these kids and spends exactly the same on all the kids regardless of who is blood relation and who is not. I actually lost it. For three years I've said nothing, but last night I really did lose it! I've watched them hit their Father, kick their Father, hang up on their Father,throw fits because they didn't get this or that, tell him what to do, talk terribly about him and to him, they don't do what he say's and they never make time for him and I've seen these things a million times and he continues to make excuses for them. I think I could deal with all of it if it weren't for the excuses. If you are dealing with a parent who atleast see's and will admit what is going on you can possibly make that situation better, but what do you do when Father makes one excuse after the other? Oh, I forgot, there was actually no plan made with these kids until about 11am on Christmas day because between them (ages 12 and 13) and their Mother and their blind Father, none of them can make a plan and stick to it. OMG am I venting!
Was I wrong?
Was I wrong in having a family picture taken of my husband and my children?
their ages are 27 and 29
their ages are 27 and 29 right?