Being new here, I was surprised at the vast differences in opinions about X communication: anywhere to feeling comfortable with a husband sleeping on the x's couch to having no communication at all and believing that the husband's new wife ruined the relationship between a father and his children. The first thing that I would like to say is DIVORCE ruins relationships within a family not new spouses. Although there are certainly justifiable reasons for divorce, to think that relationships will be easy has got to be a myth.