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The Friday Bug...

mediocrityrulesman's picture

So here I am, once again, on a Friday afternoon feeling nervous and anxious (not the good kind).
My husband is on his way down to, where the BM refers to as half-way, to pick up SD(7).
Every Friday I go through the same crap in my head...wondering if this weekend will be another hell-ish one, just like the others, if SD's coming in clothes that fit, if they are clean-ish, if she's coming back in the same underwear she left in, how much I'll have to deal with her staring at me constantly, her squeeky voice, and the oh-so demonic Saturday. I would say that the best part of SD coming over is seeing my BD's(1) reaction to seeing her. It's so cute.

I've tried so hard to pin point why exactly I feel the way I do every Friday, the anxious and nervous part. I really think it's because I feel that when she is here, she rules the roost. Her mood completely determines the household's mood. I step on egg shells from now until Sunday evening. All because I feel that I need to please her? Not right.
Friday nights are tolerable. As long as BM doesn't do what she did tonight.
Saturdays are hell. My husband has a government job that forces him to work all day saturday...and this child has no imagination what so ever, so she plants herself in front of the TV, waiting for something to jump up and yell, "PLAY WITH ME!"
I try my hardest to ignite an activity for SD to do...but nothing works. I play with her whenever BD is napping and I'm not flooded with homework. What more can I do?
SD has a beautiful room. We recently re-did it so she would maybe spend more time in there.....no avail. We live in a beautiful house (BM is still in an apartment that smells like cat urine :P)She's got a room with windows in it (she pretty much has a closet w/no windows at BMs), she has cable in her room, a video game system, every Brat under the sun, and with PLENTY to do outside (scooter, brand new bike, roller skates. I'm sorry but if I were her age and was STILL complaining of nothing to do I would be locked out of the house all day.
uuuughhhh.
But anyway. I should probably get something together so SD has something healthy to eat and continue on with my l-o-v-e-l-y weekend.
Sometimes I wonder what other 21 year olds DO on weekends...

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bellacita's picture

spends her EOWs trying to escape from the house so she wont have to deal...running around shopping, driving, wasting expensive gas...AND the worst part...difficult to fill up time when u have no friends here since u moved 600 miles away from all yrs and yr family to be w the man who put u in this situation u have to run away from home for...*sigh* i feel ya sister

dragonfly's picture

do we have the same SD? she has lots of toys,scooter and bike and all brand new. all she does is watch tv or play video games. we have a nice yard with trees and yet spends little or no time at all outside... i just hate it cause my H and i spent so much money on those toys and she does not even play with them.. by the way she is 8 years old

mediocrityrulesman's picture

I dont get it either. It pisses me off because there were plenty of other things that we should have been buying instead of toys and other things for her room. I hope she knows that it wont continue. She knows she doesnt get anything unless its a holiday because of all the stuff she already has. I almost want to go upstairs with her and tell her to put the things the doesn't like in a trash bag and we'll give it away to some little girl who will actually play with them. I can tell you right now that that bag wouldnt have many things in it. For some reason, she'd probably want to keep every little thing she owns just to HAVE it.
It's discusting how materialistic this generation is. BM doesnt help at all either.
SD knows she can go to BM for anything materialistic, shes siad it before. This means we have to keep up with everything otherwise SD would be even more miserable.

"If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?" ~ Milton Berle

dragonfly's picture

we tried telling SD to give away her toys and she cried as if someone was close to her was dead. we also tried telling her that little girls in other places had nothing to eat or wear and that a toy might make them a bit happy but she did not care at all. her answer was a definite no...up to this point she is very materialistic and only wants brand name stuff..