Skid room question
Currently we live in a 3 bedroom house but with me being pregnant again, it's going to get small, quick. So my husband and I have spoken about moving and it's an inevitable possibility. I absolutely hate moving and there's that part of me that says that we won't find another house like this for a decent enough price (we rent).
Right now, my daughters room and SD's room are in a big room separated by a partition wall, creating 2 rooms in one. I'm having a boy, really any minute now, so I have his crib parallel with my daughters crib, in the same room. Obviously he'll be in a bassinet for a little while in my room and move to the bedroom in his crib but I would like my daughter and son to have separate rooms as soon as possible.
My question may come out selfish or bitchy but hopfully you guys will know where I'm coming from. When we move, do we opt for another 3 bedroom and allow my daughter to share a room with SD, or do we go for a 4 bedroom so they can all have separate rooms?
This is where I play tug-of-war in my head. SD is only with us on the weekends and I swear to God she is only in her room to sleep. She never spends anytime up there playing. So I almost don't feel like she should have her own room. I dont know. Please help me out.
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She doesn't need her own
She doesn't need her own room - she absolutely can share with your BD. She physically sleeps there what 4 nights a month? There is no need for her to have her own room. Don't fret on this one hun - you are not being bitchy at all.
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same position
I've gone over this scenario over and over in my head. We have a three bedroom house. One bedroom is already our baby's nursery. When baby #2 comes, baby #1 will move to the bigger room (currently guest room/sk room) and baby #2 will take baby #1's room. We're goin to get a trundle bed. No need to dedicate a room to a kid that's only there a few times a month. SD expressed she wants to share room with baby#1 when she gets older...then she flips it and said that baby #1 and #2 can share a room..HELL NO!!!! Like I said, we're not dedicating a room just to her. If things get bad, baby #1 can h ave baby#2's room and baby#2 can sleep with us. SK is 12, so only six more years to go. By then, each of our kids will definitely have their own exclusive room. SD said that maybe we might have to buy a bigger house...PSSSH!
Go w/a three bedroom. No
Go w/a three bedroom. No sense paying extra for a bedroom that goes largely unutilized.
we're debating this too
okay, well I am debating it. we currently have 2 extra rooms upstairs...one for SD and the other is an office. when we decide to have a baby i want to put him/her in SDs room, bc it is bigger, has a bigger closet, etc and move SD to the office. then i started thinking...cant we leave the office kinda as it is and just add her stuff in there? i mean, we have her 4 days a month too. but she plays in her room ALOT (thank god) so i guess she needs the space. the reality is these kids already have bedrooms at their BMs houses, and since they VISIT, u need to use the space in whatever way u can.
as for u, i guess it depends on whether or not u would prefer ur kids to have their own rooms. if u dont mind if SD shares, since it would most likely be just a bed, then just get 3. but i dont know the age difference so thats something u need to think about too.
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EOW skids do not "need" their own rooms
There's not a thing wrong with having two twin beds in a kid's room and utilizing the extra bed for skid visits. People who visit 52 nights a year do not need their own room. People who live there 365 days a year don't always get to have their own rooms. I shared with my sister for a few years. My SD's shared with each other for a few years. And we have never had a big enough house to give both our kids and the three skids each their own rooms.
BUT... get as much house as you can get for the money in the best neighborhood you can afford. You can redecorate later. Go for as much space you can get in the best neighborhood you can get. You can fix up a not-so-great house, but you can't do much for a not-so-great neighborhood.
♥ ANNE 8102 ♥
no extra room
A child who only visits on alternating weekends does not need her own bedroom. My daughter does not have her own bedroom at her dad's house and they have a HUGE house. If and when my other SD begins her visits, she will be sharing the room with my daughter. You did not say the ages of the kids, but have you thought about bunk beds? SD could sleep on the top when she comes and when she is not there, you can use the top for stuffed animals, blankets, etc.
Right now I am looking for a new house because the lease is almost up. We have one of my SD's and my BD with us, and my mother due to illness. I have four bedrooms right now, and the girls are BEGGING me to get a three bedroom so they can share a room! So I think your SD would be just fine without her own room. Does not make financial sense.
"Having a family is like having a bowling alley installed in your head." ...Martin Mull
SD is going on 8 and my
SD is going on 8 and my daughter is 18 months.
"If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?" ~ Milton Berle
well i have to views to this
as a step sister myself i would say give them seperate rooms when i was a kid and my step sisters used to come stay with us i hated having to share my room
but as a step mother this is totally ok
but be aware the kids might have issues with this when its done
life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )
I agree with Anne
she doesn't need her own room. When I was first married, I kept a room for just the girls.....they only came for 6 wks in the summer and very sporatically during the rest of the year......dumb I know. It came from my own need as a step child myself feeling as though I had no real place of my own at my dads. After I had my 2nd, I decided their room would be the nursery/computer room/ whatever room. DH said he was OK with it. A few months later, we bought a bigger home and moved. Not 3 wks after we were there, skids moved in w/us...... Anyway, my point is, NO they do not need their own room, unless you have the extra space.
Especially if your daughter
Especially if your daughter is only 18 months, she won't even realize she's having to share her room! As long as they don't wake each other up at night, I say let them share.
I think we've decided that
I think we've decided that we'll get bunk beds. My daughter is just about realy to move to a bed with a rail of course because she keeps climbing out of her crib. I know it'll be rough at first but I think it's the best idea. Even though SD is with us every weekend she doesnt spend that much time up there so it wouldnt be that great of a loss that she cant get in there when my daughter is taking a nap.
Thank you for all your input!!
"If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?" ~ Milton Berle