Do most people get that sick, want to throw up feeling when they see the BM? We are going to Indiana for Thanksgiving to visit MIL & hubby's grandparents, like we do every year, and this is also where "SS" & BM live, in the next town over from them. I thankfully only see BM once a year for a few moments when we drop off SS after our visit, on our way back home. Last year BM actually talked my hubby into stopping by her great grandma's house before we left because she was sick and just came home from the hospital and she thought it'd be nice of him to visit her. barf.

I was wondering how many of you actually think of your stepkids as your family? I know some of you have your SKs a lot more than I do (mine lives 14 hrs away) and maybe thats why I feel the disconnect, but I honestly do NOT think of my SS as my family. I just can't seem to get the feeling! Is this common?

So the visit with my MIL went really well, which surprises me. She's off all her pain meds that made her so loopy & sleepy, so we actually had a nice visit. Next we have to go to Indiana for Thanksgiving (where MIL, "SS", and the BM live) We will try to arrange for SS to already be at MIL's house by the time we arrive so we don't have to go to BM's house to pick him up. So hopefully, if all goes well, we'll only have the see her when we drop him off when we leave town. Fingers crossed at least.