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SGS is graduating. Not invited but…

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Submitted by Merry on Fri, 05/02/2025 - 10:06am

DH just announced that he wants to go to SGS's high school graduation. This is the oldest son of SD who isn't talking to DH because... don't know. We used to have a good relationship with SGS but in the last few years no communication, no thank yous for gifts, etc. Expect that's about loyalty to his mother.

They are a plane ride away. When is the graduation? He doesn't know. Do we need tickets or is there a limit on seats? Don't know. He's going to call SD. Who likely won't pick up.

Predictable, with a twist

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Submitted by Merry on Fri, 04/18/2025 - 5:07pm

Haven't checked in with an update for a while.

We left off with SD not speaking with DH for reasons unknown. They now text, but short interactions a few times a week.

And SS was looking for a job, discouraged that the 6-figure jobs weren't being laid out in front of him. He finally did get a job with a good salary, but shy of six figures. So he's been BUSY. Hasn't called DH for weeks.

Long overdue

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Submitted by Merry on Thu, 12/26/2024 - 12:35pm

Apologies are hard.

DH apologized to me for all the years we went to Skidville for the holidays. We fought about it every year. I wouldn't have minded as much if they came to our house once in awhile. Last year was likely the last trip and even then I didn't have to see either skid.

I still carry anger about it. I should have refused when he could still travel by himself. But I accepted his apology and didn't dredge up the residual hurt. And I appreciate his acknowledging that he never once spent Christmas with my family, never saw my traditions.

Gifts from steps

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Submitted by Merry on Sat, 12/14/2024 - 3:42pm

There have been some funny mentions of gifts from a step kid lately. What about you? What funny, pathetic, passive-aggressive things have your skids gotten you?

SS one year got me a potholder. Pretty sure that was a year he bragged about a 6-figure salary. At least it appeared new. But most years nothing, which is fine.  I can match that energy  

 

‘’Tis the Season

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Submitted by Merry on Wed, 12/04/2024 - 3:26pm

Well, well. SD called DH on TDay. But he somehow missed the call. I dunno, I haven seen the log and don't intend to.

So they've been texting back and forth. He is giddy. They are going to arrange a Zoom call. DH isn't good with his phone so might need my help to connect. Gosh, I sure hope I don't have a mani appointment at the same time.

Happy gift grab season, everyone!

AITAH—$ for SS

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Submitted by Merry on Tue, 11/05/2024 - 10:13am

DH and I live comfortably. We're not wealthy but I don't worry about paying bills. Occasionally we take a nice trip. We're both retired, he has a decent retirement income and no savings. I have more retirement income and I've saved all my life. I don't consider my savings as joint money, but sometimes I tap into it for things we want or need. Travel, new roof, etc.

Deep down, they know.

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Submitted by Merry on Fri, 10/18/2024 - 9:37am

I believe that my DH knows his kids are jerks, deep down. He lives in a fantasy world sometimes but now and then the truth slips out.

I showed DH a photo of a mini donkey on one of our neighborhood pages. So stinkin' cute. Owner was looking to rehome it.

DH says, "I don't need a donkey. I have a daughter."  Took me a minute and then I couldn't help but laugh. 

How has your DH/DW acknowledged that their kids are difficult without saying they are difficult?

SD is not FIRST

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Submitted by Merry on Sat, 10/12/2024 - 8:21am

Well DH sure got an earful from SD. Her decision to have nothing to do with him is because he NEVER put her first and he doesn't put her first NOW. This is a grown woman with a husband and children, but apparently Daddy needs to fall at her feet.

And he's not allowed to be in touch with her children because she doesn't want them to feel the way she has felt her WHOLE LIFE. I'm

She's delusional, and narcissism comes to mind.

O/T dog storm phobia

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Submitted by Merry on Fri, 05/17/2024 - 4:43am

My sweet Pittie mix has a terrible time with storms. Very little response to Prozac or Xanax and I think one other thing the vet tried. Thundershirt and hemp chewies also not effective.

She pants, drools, shakes, climbs on me, runs out into the storm if she gets half a chance. She really suffers, and so do I.

And my grumpy old lady border collie mix is super protective of me and doesn't share well.

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