O/T -- DD brag
DD was just accepted into the doctoral program of her choice.
This is a kid who hated school. Mediocre grades throughout high school. Flunked out of college, twice. Drifted. Lived with an asshole user who had her convinced that I was too controlling and holding her back. So she moved out of state with him and supported them both on minimum wage jobs. He was going to make it big by winning video game tournaments (surely he's somebody's SS here). I was afraid I was literally going to lose this child. To this day when the phone rings, I jump.
Her Dad and I finally got her a safe place away from the asshole when she finally decided she had enough. Got her into therapy. She moved in with me (newly married to DH, who was dealing with an off-the-rails child of his own), where she had to go to school or work or both. She did. She liked working and the structure that came with it. Slowly, slowly she got back on her feet. Her dad and I were by no means perfect parents and we were horrible partners, but we had expectations and rules. At no point was she the poor, poor widdle COD.
Took her 10 years to get a bachelors degree. The last year or so she was in school full time and worked two jobs. She married a great guy, and they just bought their first house.
There is not a prouder mom on the planet.