First i would like to state a little bit of my history i was married with my ex for 15 years and we raised 2 wonderful children, we separated after 15 years but remained friends after that then about 5 years later i met another women whom i fell in love with she had at the time a 8 year old problem child with a previous ex and a 19 year old daughter from another ex (I should have seen the problems then but was in love so as they say.....)