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Since my BS's birth, I find I really resent my SD

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Submitted by mom-like on Tue, 01/15/2008 - 11:11am

For the most part, my SD6 and I have had a good, loving relationship over the past 4 years. Three weeks ago I gave birth to a little boy and since then I find that SD is completely getting on my nerves. She's being really sweet and is very excited about her new brother and wants to help with everything. I just don't know what is going on with me but I am finding it difficult to have her around (she's with us 3 days a week). I find that I've stopped making eye contact with her and have to bite my tongue to keep from saying obnoxious comments. Any insights? Anyone had similar experiences?

Real Love/Step Love -- Saying 'I love you'

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Submitted by mom-like on Mon, 09/24/2007 - 9:08pm

A year or so ago my SD, then maybe 5, was struggling with loyalty/love issues for me. She said she "didn't want to hurt my feelings" but that she loved her BM more. I, of course, rushed to reassure her that those feelings are natural, that mommys are special, and everyone loves their mother with a special bond.

I sometimes wonder: the other side of the looking glass

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Submitted by mom-like on Mon, 09/10/2007 - 4:48pm

Most people on this site seem to strongly dislike the BM, myself included. And many of us have the same list of top gripes.

Do you think BM's have the same issues with us step-parents? I wonder what they would be? And do you think they have a web site like this one to vent?

It might be a first step towards "all getting along" if we had knowledge of our respective transgressions.

Why do you think they hate us so much?

sleeping issue: what would you do?

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Submitted by mom-like on Fri, 08/03/2007 - 11:09am

SD6 has trouble sleeping through the night. She goes to bed fine, but then wakes up and gets anxious. She comes in to our bedroom and wakes my husband (and by default me) up. He says 'it's okay. go back to bed.' This happens 4 or 5 times a night (we have her 3 nights a week). In the morning she says she's sorry she does it and will try harder not to. This has been going on for years.

To complicate matters, at her other house she shares a bed with her mother. She is not used to sleeping/being alone.

Meltdown at the eye doctor

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Submitted by mom-like on Fri, 05/11/2007 - 11:54am

Would love to hear what others have done in similar situations since I didn't handle this very gracefully:

We discovered my SD's vision (lazy eye) has gotten worse. BM just calls and says she needs to see the eye doctor twice/week for a month. The BM made an appointment but can't take her, could I do it? Sure, I said. I can help out. I tried to get more information but BM didn't want to 'talk in front of' my SD.