What's this I feel? A little "nub" between my SO's legs...wait, I think he is starting to grow his balls back! It's an early Christmas miracle!!!

Let's recap. BM sent a text asking for money to contribute to SD's birthday which SO couldn't even attend (she admitted she scheduled it on a day he works...mind you this is the second year she has done it.) Wouldn't let him invite any of his side of the family or friends, had absolutely NO SAY. He was going to do a swift swap and just suck it up and go (by himself) which means he would be walking into disaster. Plus...we always do things separate for their birthdays. We don't give her money for Christmas or Easter. My theory was.."she planned it, she can pay for it."

Now, lets move on that in in my SO and BMs divorce agreement, when it comes to medical decisions it's a 50/50 decision making. Even though it would be cosmetic reasons. So what does BM do? She goes and puts braces on the kid WITHOUT my SO's knowledge and gives him "his half" of the monthly payment coupons. Now, if it was discussed together like it was suppose to be, all SD and BM would have to was wait a month or two and we could have paid his half in cash. BM was the one who signed the paperwork for the braces including the financial "loan". There would have been no finance charges and etc.

Now my SD doesn't live with us. She chose not to cause she didn't want to share a room with her own sister. She calls when she needs a ride or wants some extra money. She wanted to play softball. SO told BM if she signs her up, then it's her responsiblity. BM signs her up. I wanted SO to ask if he could take SD to practice in hopes they could just talk and be alone for a bit. SD seemed happy that my SO asked however at the last min, BM asked if SO could take his other 2 SDs to the field (mind you it was HER time with them.) So, a few days later SD asked if my SO could take her to practice, BM couldn't. SO agreed (my 2nd attempt in hopes SD and SO could talk.) He pulls up to get SD and low and behold out comes another SD. BM "told" SO he had to take the other SD. Again it was BMs time with the girls. SO couldn't say no, because honestly it's not the SDs fault. Let me add, SD always asks SO to take her to practice just an hour or so before practice. So, yesterday...SD asks SO to take her to practice once again. This again is also BMs time with the kids. HOWEVER, SD said "BM is out and Grandma is going out so you would have to take SD #2 and SD #3 and watch them." This again is about an hour-hour and a half before practice. SO said to her on the phone "I'm sorry but I can't."

It gets better. The eldest SD does not communicate with me unless it's to ask me if I can give her a ride like to get her nails done or something. I never ever hear from her. But I do text her and ask if all is well and if she needs anything. Even though she and her sisters are very nasty to me. After SD asks "well if you can't take me can "ME" take her?" SO told her "No, she is actually not at home and besides, you don't ever text "ME" back and when you do it's to ask for something. Why don't you try texting her to say hi like she does to you so maybe she wouldn't think she is being just used. You need to work on your communication skills." Now mind you, SD #1 is in high school so it's not like she is a baby.

Then it gets even better....I expressed to my SO about how I think it was not fair (request for extra money for Bday party, the braces, softball) and I know I was being a pain but I wanted my SO to learn to stick up for himself, he never does nor has he ever when it came to BM. I dropped all of it because I didn't want to stress out SO more then he was and it was only causing tension between him and I. So, when I was out at the gym yesterday, SO without me knoweledge sent BM a text/Email telling her that he was tired of her walking all over him and that he wasn't going to give her any extra money, and how he we was upset over the decision of the braces without his knowledge and flat out told her that he was tired of her taking advantage of him.

He told me last night that he felt so good to send that Email. I told him he didn't have to send it to shut me up and that I would support him no matter what, but he said he was glad he did.

Could this possibly be something positive? I'm sure this might open a can of worms for I don't think BM has responded to the text considering that SO tends to hide from me when she is being nasty and hateful because "he doesn't want me to dislike her." However, I think that it is a good possibilty that he is starting to see the light and he is reclaiming his "balls."