get rid of him.

Yes it is better if he goes

Hello to all!!! I finally found a blog that hit the nail on the head for me! I can totally relate to your situation "Mommy Love"! To give you a brief background. I have been a member of this forum for over 3 weeks but just didnt know what or how to say what all I needed to get off my chest. I am remarried for 3 years now, DH was married before and has 2 children, his BD(soon to bee 7) and BS(soon to be 11). I have two of my own BD(soon to be 12) and a BS who just turned 16. I am a sick with many issues but my heart is the main problem so i do not work but I am currently obtaining a masters degree, my 2 bk's live with us as well as his bs, whom we have custody of.

During the course of our marriage I have had numerous problems with his ex, trying to control our marriage and dictate to us and our household when it comes to their daughter. (he has 2 different baby mama's.) I have NO PROBLEMS with the ss's mother in fact we get a long great!. To many stories and details to give right now, so I will make the story short. I use to have a great relationship with my SD, but ever since my SS has come to live with us, my DH ex wife the SD mother, has restricted her from us, especially mew but only wants her to visit us at her convenience. When SD comes now since last year during her school breaks, she is rude, disrespectful, told me I am not the boss of her, wants to fight the other kids and acts like a little baby when her dad is around. I am the one who takes care of all the kids atleast 75% of the time because DH works alot because of his government job. So I want to discipline the SD but I know it will cause conflict with the ex wife, and my DH refuses to open his mouth to the ex about their daughter and her actions, as well as he allows the ex to pretty much run and control him because they have a child together.

This summer all the kids will be gone in less than a week for the whole summer. My SS to his mom's and my Kids to the father for the summer. My husband thinks it should not be any problem if the SD comes for the whole summer and I take care of her while he works all day and night, I cant discipline her and the mother is very rude and disrespectful to me as well! So I have put my foot down and told him NO she can not, i cant take care of her, there are no other kids here, I am in school taking accelerated classes, and I need my own little break while all the other kids are gone for the summer as well it should be a time for he and I to spend together. Lastly, I take a ton of different meds and me alone with a 6 1/2 year old who has ADHD isn't going to happen and not good at all. I even told him to take a week off and go to where they live and visit her there, so atleast he could see her this summer.

The Ex keeps calling us asking when can she come and he keeps saying he dont know instead of letting her know that she cant this summer but he will be to visit her. He acts like he is scared of her! (FYI, I know the mother still has strong feeling for him, even after 3 years and she has a man) but my husband doesnt see any of that!!!!

To sum it all up (cause I know I have rambled something terrible in this post. I am saying no to her coming A: because of the lack of respect the SD and mother have for me and dont appreciate a D%^& I do for the child, (by taking care of her when she does come. B: I cant discipline her as she should be when she is in our household, C: no other kids will be at our home for the summer and D: I am not the darn nanny or babysitter to their rude daughter and my health doesnt allow me to be as active as anyone should be with younger children that constantly need help with a lot of things.

With all of this said, my husband and I have not spoken to one another over a week and this one situation with his Daughter is ruining my household, family, marriage and my life. SD and her mother have been a constant problem in our marriage but until recently it has taken it over!

HELP ME PLEASE!!! And I feel your pain "Mommy Love"!