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What to do about BM's behavior in this last 6 weeks of school!

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Submitted by mrsparks on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 12:26pm

We were granted full custody Apr. 8th, but we decided to let SS[almost 6] stay in the school he's in with a great special ed teacher- for the last 6 weeks and he will reside with us starting June 3rd.

BM knows the teacher was set to testify against her in court, although it wasn't necessary and the teacher didn't.

BM is now dropping SS off at school late, she called him off of school today for no reason, when she dropped him off late last week she was asked by the teacher if SS had eaten breakfast, the teacher said, she ignored her, when asked again, she snapped back at the teacher "I'm not talking to you!"

Since DH does technically have full custody, although SS is not in our home as of yet, is there anything we can do with her just randomnly bringing him to school or calling him in absent at her leisure, or should we just document and possibly try to modify her visitation in the future?

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 12:30pm

I don't know for sure, but I would think that if you were granted full custody, the court would rather hold your DH responsible for seeing that SS is where he should be when he should be.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 12:44pm

Is the court aware that SS is staying with BM for the time being? If that's included in the change in custody, then I would think BM could be held liable.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 12:57pm

I would absolutely document everything and that way if you wish to modify in the future, you'll have that information.

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Submitted by LotusFlower on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 1:54pm

I hate to tell you this, but u may have to drive this child to school from your home for the rest of the school year...This happened with YSD who was going to finish out the school year with BM, but BM treated her, the teachers, etc all horribly...she used to tell SD not to call her her mother that she was only her "Nanny" until she went to live with her father..to me, the way she was treated was abusive,,,we didn't have to address visitation because BM took off,,,but if visitation was an issue..DH would have insisted on supervised for the safety of the skids....it was sadistic behavior, so we had to take her early and drive the distance to school every day...when these BM's lose custody (imo) its best to get the kids away from them asap....good luck Smile

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