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Submitted by N8tiveButt3rfly on Sat, 10/09/2010 - 9:57am

My SD9 and my niece do NOT get along. My niece lives right down the hall from SD9's gma and her gma has expressed to SD9 that she doesn't like my niece although it is BOTH SD9 AND my niece's fault. They are mean to one another most of the time. My BD11 and my niece are really close. They are cousins after all and my BD11 is here for the weekend. I had JUST gotten back from getting my BS4 and was standing in my sister's apartment my niece, BD11 and SD9 were all standing in her kitchen and my niece asked if my BD11 could stay the night.

Am I the only who doesn't get along with her MIL?

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Submitted by N8tiveButt3rfly on Fri, 10/01/2010 - 3:04am

Some background on my MIL... she's 63 years old and has only one child. My H (who is 28 years old) has NO brothers or sisters because my MIL was pregnant 5 times before my H and each one of them were either stillborn or didn't live long after they were born. My H only has one Bio kid because when he got with his XGF he was only 16 and she was 26 and she already had 2 children from two different previous relationships. So XGF and H only had SD9 together. When I first married my H I admit I had high hopes that my MIL and I would get along well and hopefully one day we could be close.

Update to BM's sister is now children's SM...

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Submitted by N8tiveButt3rfly on Thu, 09/30/2010 - 10:29am

I would like to start off by thanking everybody who gave feedback to my earlier post. There were comments that made me cry... but that's good a thing because right now I'm trying to fix some pretty BIG messes, some that I have made and others that I won't take responsibility for as I had no control (XDH with sister one I could not have controlled)...

Was awakened badly... not too great a mood now.

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Submitted by N8tiveButt3rfly on Sun, 09/26/2010 - 11:05am

Sometimes I feel as though my Husband thinks his daughter is perfect and it makes me SO angry! I'll be the first to admit that my BC are not by any means perfect and I'm sure that they annoy both my husband and my SD9 sometimes. My BC are just so different from my husband and his daughter, especially my boys. My husband and his daughter are the quiet, laid back type who are usually fine if they're just left alone to play video games or watch Spongebob. My BS8 and BS4 are honest boys and like to wrestle and well... be BOYS.

Could I please ask some advice for my SD9?

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Submitted by N8tiveButt3rfly on Sun, 09/26/2010 - 12:35am

I've learned a lot today. I called my sister and told I'm sorry for leaving her to take care of 5 children that aren't even hers and I thanked her for being good to them and asked her if it is at possible that she and I can try to have at least a semblance of a relationship again and she told me she's willing if I am... so there's one down and it's thanks to good advice from here soooooo, onto my next challenge.

My biological children's SM is my sister...

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Submitted by N8tiveButt3rfly on Sat, 09/25/2010 - 12:17pm

I'm new to this site and have read some of the blogs here and all I can say is I am SO happy that I have hopefully found somewhere I can vent and maybe even start to work through some of the issues that I am constantly trying to deal with. I have to try to deal with my BC coming to me and telling me all the horrible things that their SM (my own sister) says about me to them. It also irritates me that my EH leaves all the decision making up to her. She runs around calling children that are mine, HERS.

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