Can never wait till the weekends are over!

Haven't been on in a WHILE! But it seems lately that everything that comes out of my SS7's mouth makes a wave of anger go through me on a daily basis. Now what I have noticed SS5 is now repeating what he says.

Tell me if I am crazy, but here are some examples of things this child has said that make me see red!

1.)I was watching discovery channel and a man had gotten bitten by a snake, SS7 is allowed to watch PG, which it was, but I was the one watching T.V. and he came and sat next to me.

BF saw the man bleeding from the snake bite and asked that SS7 go in the other room.

BF said "it's too graphic"

O.k. it's his kids, but I mentioned that it's rating was PG, just so he would know.

Then SS7 pipes in from the other room in a super sassy annoying tone "Graphic is not something my Dad wants me watching." MADE MY BLOOD BOIL!!!! Just wanted to scream!

2.) The children are NOT allowed in our room. SS7 asked the other day why they weren't allowed in there. BF replied that that was the rules and just the way it is, and because they have no reason to be in there.

SS7 says, "O.K., then you guys aren't allowed in my room" THE ONLY THING BF SAID WAS "I really don't go in your room for anything." OMG!!!!!!!! Again, blood boiling.

3.) BF rented the kids a movie and said we would watch it with them. Since our couch is tiny and SS5 and SS7 have a hard time keeping their hands to themselves (either trying to grope BF or I or fighting with eachother) and are unable to sit still, EVER, BF tells them to grab pillows and blankets and make a spot on the floor.

A few minutes into the movie, SS7 comes up and tries to get on the couch.

BF says "Have a seat on the floor, Buddy."

SS7 says "Why" "Why can't I sit on the couch, I am your son?"

Grrrrrrrr... I honestly hate pretty much everything that comes out of this kids mouth. He is either complaining, objecting, being negative, or being sassy.

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Sounds like SS isn't the

Sounds like SS isn't the problem, DH is. Kids learn which tones, words are effective. He knows he is getting under your skin and he knows dh isn't going to correct it. SD gets sent to her room a LOT for having an attitude problem. She can feel however she wants, but her expression of those feelings better be appropriate or she will go and think about how to better express it. She is allowed to pout, mope, verbalize that she is unhappy, but she may not whine, object, or get sassy.

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

I agree. DH needs to

I agree. DH needs to correct it.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

Is it normal for me to feel

Is it normal for me to feel angered by what this child says, does his comments warrant discipline? What do I say to DH and when. Right away? Is there something I can say to SS as well?

I think its normal for you

I think its normal for you to be angered, lol, but don't show it. If SS knows what gets under your skin, he will continue to do it. I also wouldn't point out every little thing to DH, I did this and it caused problems (I was "picking on SS"). I would point out one of the doozy comments to DH and tell him that its not appropriate and SS isn't the adult. As far as saying something to SS, I would just ignore him and let DH take care of it. When I used to say things to SS it would go in one ear and out the other, but when DH would say something, thats when it stopped. DH has to be on the same page as you.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

Sometimes "because I said

Sometimes "because I said so" are wonderful words. It is normal for 7 year olds to start pushing the envelope. Actually it sounds to me like your BF is doing a good job by not allowing them to do what they want. I think it is just a difference in parenting style between the two of you. He isn't letting the kid do whatever he wants, he's just not responding to him the way you think he should respond to him.

Because I said so didn't

Because I said so didn't work for us but I wish it did, lol. I agree that it may be a difference in parenting styles. If that is the case, you guys need to talk or it will cause problems in the future.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

My little craphead of a son,

My little craphead of a son, my own biological son, made me so mad yesterday I could have knocked him across the room. We called to him yesterday to come get his supper, he didn't come. It's a big deal to us that when the parents call for you, you don't yell "what," you come to us immediately. You don't tell us to "wait a minute." You walk into the room, and you await instructions. So, he's sitting at the dinner table, and says, "Why should I come to you when you call? It's not like you come to me when I call." After closing my mouth after it had hit the floor, both DH and I lit into him about it being a matter of respect, etc. If I had said that to my parents, or DH to his parents when we were younger, we would have been bloodstains on the wall. However, my son was excused to go to his room, because honestly, at that moment, I didn't know how to handle what he said.

It's completely normal to get fuming mad at your stepkids for talking back to you like that. Heck, I get fuming mad at my own bio-kids. Thankfully, my DH won't let ANYONE disrepsect me in any way whatsoever. (My ex, his ex, the kids, my own mother will be called to task if he feels I'm being disrespected or treated in a manner he feels is not right).

Sigh ~ I love my man!
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