Ugh just had the most annoying thought
What if BM changes her last name back to our last name now that she is getting divorced? She never changed her older daughter's last name or birth certificate like she was supposed to so I could see her doing it to match the kids. I know there is nothing we can do about it, but that would be so annoying especially when she was legally supposed to change her daughter's last name already.
EDIT: The good news is if she doesn't have it in her divorce decree from step dad then it is a whole process involving going in front of a judge to get a court order for her to apply to change it. I doubt BM will think of having that added so if she doesn't it would at least be a process for her to change it.
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You and your husband change
You and your husband change last name to yours lol! Might be really petty but eh if you really want to shove it to the ex ....
Yeah I'd be annoyed to ... just another subtle way these desperate exes refuse to let go
How old is the daughter?
Lol, yeah that would be a funny idea if
our DD doesn't have that last name, our house, our cars, etc. everything we have bought after getting married is in that last name. Plus SD's last name too.
After all the ugly false allegations and then everything with her older daughter, it would be so messed up to go back to it.
Her daughter is 10 now, but BM was ordered to change the daughter's last name and birth certificate over 6 years ago.
I wouldn't be surprised. BM
I wouldn't be surprised. BM still has "our" last name from their divorce 12 years ago. She lives out of state though, right? Meh, brush it off. No one in your circle of friends/family would even know or care.
She does, but that means we would have to write it
several times a year when SD flies back to BM. I know in the scheme of things it is a drop in the bucket, but all the ugly false allegations she made against DH and then the whole taking DH's rights from her first child that she knew, but played off as his biologically for years and also not changing her name like she was ordered to. It would bother me if she were to go back to DH's last name after all of that ugliness and lies.
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Too much time spent on nonsense. Worry about your and your kids name. Not anybody else
'The ex is nutes. Nothing you can do about that
Your BM has had 3 last names
Your BM has had 3 last names in a short time between her maiden name, DH's name, and now her new/STBX husband's name. At this point, a name is a name to her, it holds no relevant value. Not to mention, with how desperate and lazy your BM is, she will be onto DH #3 in no time.
Plus, changing her name would require work and as we have all seen, your BM is allergic to work. If she hasn't changed her other daughter's name in 6 years, what makes you think she will change her own?
Don't lose sleep over this. You, DH, and DD (and SD) are the true family behind the name. BM is just grasping at any sort of identity she can grab at so she can flounder through her life.
My XW petitioned to return to her maiden name at our divorce
My XW petitioned to return to her maiden name at our divorce hearing. She got into some hot water with the Judge when she got nasty about it. That cost her the house. Or more accurately, gave me the house. Which her grandpa sugar/baby daddy ended up cutting a big check for nearly 4 years after the divorce.
My bride of 30+ years took my family name. I told her that it was entirely her choice to keep her maiden name or take mine. She was adamant that she was not keeping her maiden name which had been source of major teasing and bullying all through school.
When my SS asked me to adopt him when he was 22, my bride and the kid had the same family name for the first time. They both have made what was a pretty good name that much better. I am proud of them both, so are my parents who are huge fans of my bride and our kid.