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OMG...MIL had pastor of her church call DH...

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Wed, 11/04/2009 - 5:21pm

Can you frickin believe this crap? MIL has pastor of her church call DH to discuss him telling SD she can leave next month when she turns 18. When the whole reason it even came up was because MIL told SD that she could live with her and she would buy her a car. SO MIl and SD goes behind DH's back and when he finds out and says bye bye then...MIL has pastor call DH. I am so freakin pissed off about this. MIL couldnt even pick up the phone and talk to her son...instead she does this. And they wonder how SD gets so screwed up in the first place???? DISENGAGING!!!!!

I am over DH's guilt parenting...

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Wed, 11/04/2009 - 10:42am

Update: last night DH called his parents to give them a "heads up" that he told SD17 to go ahead and leave after she turns eighteen. He goes outside to talk to them as always and comes back in to me and says that SD was not planning on moving in with them until after she graduated in June, that her birthday was never the plan and now he feels sorta bad for telling her to just go ahead and leave. OMG??? REALLY??? I am so over this crap. Honestly I just want the kid out as soon as possible. I backed up DH when he wanted to confront SD for having plans to leave.

The nerve of kids these days...

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Tue, 11/03/2009 - 12:02pm

So DH and SD17 got into it last night about her moving out after her birthday. Initially DH was trying to work things out with her but SD refuses to improve. She has this woe is me attitude, she is always the vicitm etc. Anyhow, this morning SD's boyfriend decides to put a message to DH on his myspace page---You don't know anything about me, you don't know anything about your daughter, you sad excuse of a man"--- I was appalled that any teenager would think it was ok to be this disrespectful to an adult like that.

How should I handle Christmas and Birthday gift????

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Mon, 11/02/2009 - 2:30pm

Alright folks...opinions needed...

DH has been out of work since July. We are BARELY making it by the skin of our teeth on my income. So Christmas and SD17's birthday are both in December. I CANT AFFORD or much less want to buy the child anything. We are getting my other kids toys only because there is a toy swap at church, where you bring old toys and exchange them for new ones, so its free. We can't obviously get her toys...she is 17. How do I handle this with DH?

The end is almost here..I think..

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Mon, 11/02/2009 - 2:20pm

I have posted on this topic before but now we are down to the wire. So SD17 turns eighteen in six weeks. I think DH and I need to sit down with SD17 and have serious conversation letting her know that time is up. If we don't, I can just see her saying, well you didn't let me know etc etc and she will go nowhere and it will drag on and on. She has told BM that she wants to graduate with her BF, so she is trying to butter up DH into letting her stay until graduation. Meanwhile MIL has already told her to come live with her and she would buy her a car.

do I really have to put up with this crap for another 9 months...

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 10:18am

The disrespect is continuing at our house, every day it gets more and more ridiculous. SD17 called me step-bitch and said when she moves out she is never going to talk to me again. DH did NOTHING and when I got pissed off about the whole thing, DH said there is nothing he can do, and asked me what I would do if I was in his situation. Honestly, I didn't know what to say. I would never have this kind of guilt parenting relationship with one of my own. I am tired of SD17 showing the BD12 and BS6 that its ok to disrespect me and NOTHING happens.

BM has done a 180...

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 2:43pm

So BM calls my cell phone, this is her only way to contact me because I cut off email and dont answer the house phone if its her on caller id. I answered because the SD17 was with her this weekend. BM seems genuine but says she has seen the light as far as SD17 is concerned and doesnt know how I have put up with her all these years. BM is tired of SD17's attitude at her house, her sense of entitlment and disrespect. :O Gee...welcome to my world!

I am so over the manipulation tactics...

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Thu, 10/01/2009 - 9:10am

SD17 told two different stories to her BM and DH so she would be able to go to homecoming. However, it backfired when BM called me to confirm that SD could go to homecoming, because BM had a family event planned on the same day, and had specifically planned it for her weekend. SD wanted to switch weekends to go to homecoming instead. SD told BM that DH said it was ok and everything was all planned out and they need to switch weekends. Funny DH didn't know anything about homecoming, much less switching weekends.

Now that we've come to the end of the road...

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Submitted by overit4tenyrs on Tue, 09/15/2009 - 12:02pm

So yesterday SD17 tells DH that she is moving in with grandma when she graduates from high school in June becasue she can't handle our rules, we are horrible etc. DH and I already agreed that SD17 would move out when she turned 18 in December, so I was confused. Now he is pretending we never had that conversation, even though we had it MANY times. I just want my house back, our lives back etc. I am so sick of putting up with SD17's bs and her influencing the younger ones. I even asked DH if that meant we were just supposed to put up with the disrespect, lying etc...

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