I just passed my one year mark of being disengaged and it has been GREAT!! Although, I think DH and SS would not agree, somehow they took note, and asked for involvement, but I held firm. They now know they are not in control me!! DH has admiited though it is less stresful around here.
Also, SS just turned 17, so one more year to go!!

I just need to vent...The other day, my DH and I had an arguement; I did not back him up when he yelled at our 5 yr old daughter. He had to ask her something 3 times... the first time was nice...the next 2 times were monitone and vervatime, and comes across extremely rude. (Somewhat hard to explain) He has done this before and it is just not an affective way to speak with children. I told him if we would never allow someone to speak to us this way, and we would never allow our daughter to speak to anyone this way, then he should not talk to her this way. Teach her by our actions.

So, as I am new here, and I know I have not giving much back-ground information, we just had another weekend with ss16. I should go back to the previous weekend, where I was lied to by obmission from DH, regarding something his ss wanted. Prior to that weekend, ss16 has not sat with us wathcing TV in about 6 months.